Thick skin and soft emanations

Love Thy Neighbor, that's the saying. I believe it. But there's another element.

Don't need love from thy neighbor. Don't need it, but take it if it exists.

Have you ever really wanted someone to like you and you ended up being neglected by that person? It's because it's a weird emotion you're putting out. People don't like it. It's like you're trying to suck something out of them, take something from them, and you are. You want to be loved.

Fine... everyone wants affinity from others. It's an enjoyable experience. But I believe how you go about getting it makes every difference.

Think back to a time when someone... perhaps someone with a romantic interest in you, liked you and you didn't like them back. Maybe they gave all kinds of hints, longing looks, etc. Did you like it? Did you want to reciprocate? Probably not. That person might have stuck in their mind the idea that they loved you... but I beg to differ.

They wanted love from you.


Another aspect of life, another view of life comes into being when you focus entirely upon your creation of affinity for others and forget altogether about the receiving process. In this mode you're at cause, creating affinity for others. You're feeling affinity because it is emanating from you. If you're feeling it already, why would you fear not receiving it from others?

The others will pick up on your feeling and reciprocate. It is because they can detect the truth, which is that you care about them and don't need anything from them... you just want them to feel good and have a good life.

Give more and forget altogether about receiving. The magic is that you end up receiving more than you ever would if you were focused on receiving.


To the good life,
Will

Incremental improvement

This is important.

Everyone at one time or another has had a massive goal in mind. Some are pursuing their goal, some are thinking about it and some have completely given up.

You think of a new car or a new home and you say "I want that." Also, you say, maybe without being aware of it, that you want it NOW. This puts a tremendous pressure on you to get what you want.

It would be great if we could have what we want instantly, and in some cases we can. And perhaps for some, it could be that they get what they want without a lot of time and effort. But I do know that for myself, most of the time when I want something big, I have to work for it and pour my energy into it until it's mine.

There is something romantic about anticipation. Imagine saying "I want the love of my life to appear, all the money I'll ever need, and the most amazing and exciting life anyone has ever lived" and getting it the next moment. First of all, it's a dream. Secondly, you can't wrap up in the sweet feeling that accomplishment brings, because you will not have accomplished anything. It was given to you, wasn't it?

To finally have built something, to have put the thing there piece by piece through your own efforts, your own intelligence, is undoubtedly the most incredible feeling you can create.

I currently believe incremental improvement to be the path towards a high flown life, a great romance, more success, or whatever else you want. Did you make a million dollars today? Did you find the love of your life and get married today? Did you fly an airplane and cruise to a tropical island where you later relaxed and watched the waves roll in? Maybe not. But did you improve today?

That is all you need to ask.

Did I at least learn more about finance, or the product I deliver (which in turn brings in money)?
Did I improve my ability to communicate to the opposite sex? Have I learned more about them?
Have I enjoyed today to the very best of my ability and made it as much of a paradise as I could?

Incremental improvement. If you're worried about something, stop bathing in misery, watching TV, wasting time and DO something that will improve your condition.

You are the creator of your own life. Never forget that.



All the best,
Will

Are you experienced? An idea for living

Wheew,

I'm a 25 year old guy and I don't know everything yet! One thing I have recently learned is that life is an experience. Maybe you're not experiencing what you want and you long for something else.

And you long for it and keep thinking only of the future, of the time when you'll have that experience. So you negate your current experience and the people you are currently around and say it's not very important because it's not what you want. But I'd like to say that this attitude, which I had, is insane.

It's insane because of this: you are on the sidelines, watching your own life, trying to edit your own life. Instead of being there and experiencing what you do have and who you're with, you're out here thinking how much better something else would be.

I think a better viewpoint would be: What is good about what I'm experiencing? And how much can I learn from the people I'm currently with?

Life is a series of moments. Every day is a unit of your overall life. Did the current unit (today) live up to your expectations? Maybe not, but were you there to live it? Maybe if you were it would have gone better.

I believe it's better to immerse yourself in life than to withdraw and watch from the sidelines.


Until next time,
Will

Interest and Art

You've got to be interested in something if you're going to be an artist.

Life is intensely interesting and you will only reflect that if you're interested in life.

So don't be bored. Find interest in everything. You will be amazed at what life turns into!

JUST AMAZED!

Suffering and Living towards the Goal

Where are you going in your life? Ask yourself that question. What is the size of your goal? Are you hungry enough? Are you excited at the idea of your success or just bored... or even apathetic? Well, I wanted to let you in on something.

LIFE IS NOT, AND NEVER WILL BE, THE SAME ALL THE TIME!

 

Don't fool yourself. Ask any professional in any field and you will find that NOONE was handed a pass to success, it was EARNED by hard work and dedication. And through the course of their accomplishment they had to overcome intense obstacles. As they overcame each obstacle their strength grew to a point where they were almost unstoppable.

What is life? It's deep love, it's intense fear, it's sanity, it's insanity and everything in between. It's going along a course towards something, some goal. Maybe you don't know where you're going or maybe you do. The point is that it's not going to be the same every day. Life, if you try to structure and control everything down to the last detail, if you try to make your days comfortable and peaceful at all times, will not be what you want it to be.

What is a great life? It can be many different things for different people. But one rule that I have found, used, disobeyed, and come to trust is that to live you have to be willing to experience highs and lows. You have to handle any allergy to pain or suffering that you might have and agree to rush into life, and damn the consequences! If you don't try you fail automatically anyway. 

You're here and your goal is there... well there are going to be obstacles and hard times and there are going to be freedoms and sweet victories. Don't fall into the belief that you can achieve great things without a little bit of suffering. 

Make a goal. Believe in the goal. Through all your actions, including taking necessary time off, move towards the goal. Ride over the obstacles. Keep your eye on the end product. 

Obstacles are only as strong as you make them. Put 99.9% of your attention on the goal, and with the remaining .01% push aside opposition gently. Don't kill yourself by focusing on what's wrong.

Experience it all, take it as an adventure and achieve something so big it makes your heart thump.

Till next time,

Will

Creation - Audience

Thanks for tuning in. I wanted to say something about why I care about art.

Art is the mold of the world. It sells ideas. It starts new realities. It stops wars. It initiates peace. It does anything you can think of. And it's the responsibility of the individual artist to know the ideas and new realities they're putting forth. The wrong destructive message can lay anything to waste. And I just know I wouldn't want anything like that on my conscience, and I don't think you would either.

It is an interesting thing to note that people are very effected by art. You can take a happy, cheerful person  into an angry frame of mind by a bombardment of negative images, music, etc. And you can pull someone up from sadness in an instant with the right positive music, painting, etc. Ever been upset, even for a long time, and suddenly notice something like a beautiful sunrise and become filled with hope and at least potential happiness? That's one example of the power of beauty and art. A negative example of art, or at least images, would be the movie "A Clockwork Orange." In that movie the main character, though quite demented already, is subjected to a constant barrage of violent movies, made to watch with his eyelids held open, and is eventually made to be sick. Essentially it ruins him even further.

So I suggest you evaluate the message you're sending. Is it going to help or hurt?